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Free Thought Fridays: Goodbye to Bob, a poem


Back in September of 2014 I had a miscarriage just before the end of my first trimester. It was devastating. When it happened I felt so alone even though I had the support of my hubby (who was amazing btw) and family. I’d felt grief before at the death of a loved one but I’d never gotten so lost in grief before. It struck me as odd that more people didn’t talk about miscarriage like a regular death. In some ways it’s not a regular death but you still must grieve the loss of life and the dreams you had for your child. I feel ready now to talk about it more openly. Perhaps this poem will help others who have gone through the same thing. We called the baby Bob, short for baby on board. I hope this helps someone out there to know, you’re not alone.


Goodbye to Bob

I had to say goodbye to you,
Even though I didn’t want to.
You were an unexpected miracle
We took delight in,
And now I feel like
You’ve flown away to heaven
Leaving me behind
And I don’t know how to deal with it.

My body has betrayed me.
I still feel like you are with me,
Even now…
As I kissed your picture to say goodbye,
A part of me still can’t believe
You’re gone.
I may never know why.
Maybe you were too good for this world
to stay in it.

All I can say is
I’ll miss you.
We’ll miss you,
Your father and I.
We’ll love you until we die.

@Copyright Elegantly Eco, 2015


Author: Hazel

Unrepentant blogger of eco beauty, fashion and info living in Toronto, Canada. Blogging and reviews about eco-friendly organic brands, beauty, fashion, cosmetics, skincare, haircare, body care, DIY recipes, home, wellness, and lifestyle products that are available in Canada.

2 thoughts on “Free Thought Fridays: Goodbye to Bob, a poem

  1. The journey we take to become parents is profoundly different from anything else and I think every mother has experienced your grief in one way or another. Thank you for putting to words the feelings I was never able to express.

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